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No Homo

What are you implying by saying No Homo?

I’m getting tired of hearing all these No Homo slang banging around spitting by guys, and some of them, my friends. I really wanna slap a bro. I used to be angry, now I just feel that this culture has a long way to grow up.

Why are you so insecure about your masculinity and sexuality and feel the NEED to go around expressing that you have no homosexual tendencies by VOCALLY express it out loud?

I’ll see guys commenting on other guys Facebook pictures “Nice body, Bob…No Homo”

If you’re gonna complement someone, complement them. You don’t need an exception clause. No one were gonna accuse you of being a homosexual (or even if that’s such a bad thing?) until you had to say No Homo.

For example, Lil Wayne, in his song “Lollipop” which is pretty much about girls sucking and licking his little magic stick. If that’s what you’re into, that’s fine—whatever floats your boat. But EVEN in the beginning of the song, seriously, why do you still feel the need to say out loud “No Homo” while girls are sucking your lollipop? Really? Are you that insecure, that any little bit of gesture…might make you a “fag”?

I just hear it all the time “I love you, bro…No Homo”

It’s like as long as you say it, everything is okay. If you just had gay sex with one another, as long as you say “No Homo” at the end, it’ll make you all “straight” once again…C’mon.

It’s just the fear of living life and being who you are that’s keeping everybody from reaching their potential. A man can’t even express him love and gratitude with another man by hugging or holding each other hands in public, even if they have no romantic feelings, because they are afraid of being seen as “gay.” And it’s really sad. Back in the days, men had such deep relationships with one another (I’m not even trying to be punny) and they didn’t not care a shit how they are perceived by others because being affectionate wasn’t such a stigma, or something that only “gay people would do.” What does it mean? Then what do “straight people” would do?

Seriously? It’s like me telling my parent, “I love you, Dad…No Homo”

He’ll be bound to be wonder, what the hell is all that about…and when did homosexuality come into this?

This fear of being seen as a “fag” is what’s keep guys being themselves. Some guys are sensitive and is as gentle as a girl, or even more soul. Regardless of his sexuality, whether he is straight or gay, that is who he is. But because of this hyper-masculinity society that we live in, where guys think the only way to get women is looking like 50 Cents and talking like Eminem, and living life like the Jersey Shore cast…it’s a sad reality. These guys suppress their emotions and needs so that they can fit into this horrible archetype of a guyly guy…who doesn’t shave and have beer belly…because that’s so manly. And if you actually groom and took good care of your body, you’re seen as gay…even worst…a metrosexual…Like it’s a bad thing? And all these dude doesn’t even have personality or anything interesting to say.

I’m just sick of it all. The next time I hear it from a guy, I’m gonna quiz his ass on masculinity and sexuality. I’m gonna ask him, what does he even mean by saying “That’s so gay.” And it’s not just guys, it’s girls, too. We all say it all the time, “That’s so gay.” What are we trying to say? Why are we so afraid of having feelings for the same gender or same sex? Are we gonna have rabies if we do? Why is all the parents so afraid of their children being “gay”? Do they really believe it’s gonna be the end of the world and everyone is gonna go to hell, if their child have a penis, and he likes a penis, instead of vaginas? Or if their daughter tend to date someone who has vaginas then penis? And it’s not even about genitals…it’s about the person…

This judgmental and comical culture that we live in is gonna put us into the apocalypse if there is one to come.

And you know, it’s ridiculous for a man to be afraid of another man having a crush on them. If you can’t even handle that, then what does that say about your character? Are you gonna runaway from girls, if you find out they like you? Exactly. So if a guy has a liking for you, you should take that as a complement. If anything, I would be flattered that to know that I’m attractive to both teams. And beside, gay men have STANDARDS. Don’t be so full of yourself. 

And just because you are “gay” doesn’t make you any less of a man. It’s ridiculous the limitation we put ourselves into. For example, if you eat salad, you’re a wimp and gay, and if you eat BK Double Pound Slam Burger, you are the man. Seriously? Just because some men prefer bananas over apples, doesn’t make them any less of a man. Look at Andersen Cooper. Dude’s jack. And yes, he is “gay” in that he is in a relationship with another man right now. Does that make me any less credible? If you say yes, then you are just ignorant and really need to open your brain up and get some knowledge into it. I’m gonna sound blunt, seriously, get educated before it’s too late.

And I’m so sick of being the politically correct guy. It’s not even about being PC, it’s about fucking respect. I’m just sick of hearing people use “gay” as something to insult another individual. It’s like saying “That’s so Black” or “That’s so Asian” or whatever. Are you supposed to be offended by that? Seriously, don’t use people’s lifestyle as a way to insult them. If you’re gonna insult someone, at least be creative with it…And even Yo Momma jokes more creative than “That’s so gay.”  

And if you tell me to chill that’s it’s just a joke, I will just flip more shit on you. It’s this social acceptance that it’s okay to make fun of people like this, FOR BEING WHO THEY ARE instead of appreciating their courage and honesty, and the continuation of spitting fucking “jokes” like these that end the lives of innocent child. I am definitely a funny guy, but laughing at people at the expense of their lives is not something I will tolerate. Don’t be so insecure about yourself and sexuality that you need to make fun of other people to feel okay about yourself. I just hope that one day you can learn to love yourself enough because life can be so much more beautiful than that. How you treat other people is a reflection of how you treat yourself. If you love just a bit of yourself enough, you would never have the need to go put another person down.

Alright, yo. Much love…No homo.

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