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Homophobia and Transphobia or any other humanphobia is the insecurity of oneself

Disclaimer: I wrote this during the summer of 2009 when I was very frustrated with the world and before I found peace within myself, so my thoughts are really scattered, but this is a rough draft, but I will continue to work on this. But I just felt the urge just to publish this even if it’s unfinished.

8/18/09

Homophobia (or fear of man*)

*=man will be the umbrella term for humans, so when I say man, I also mean woman, and the pronoun he will also mean she…I apologize for the laziness but it’s for simplicity sake…

In the current state that we live in, the fear of homosexuals is a fear of insecurity.

I am not the scientific type, but there have been research that have shown that most homophobic men are very insecure or confuse about their sexuality or that they are “gay” themselves and that they are in denial of their sexuality.

Think about it—if you are really secure and confident about yourself and sexuality, why would you need to belittle, hate, and insult other people in order to prove your sexuality and masculinity?

Masculinity is social construct constructed by society, therefore creating a concept that penetrates people’s mind in thinking that there’s only one way, and one correct way only, to live your life. If you are born with a penis, you will automatically assumed by everyone, including your doctors and especially your parents to act a certain way. If you are born with a vagina, you will automatically assumed by everyone, including your doctors and especially your parents to act a certain way.

What everyone woman and man needs to understand that we have a combination of being “masculine” and “feminine” in all of us. In this needing-to-prove-yourself-all-of-the-time state that we live in, we tend to muscle up on our masculinity and push down our femininity inside. Masculinity is a beautiful thing but so is feminity. What most people forget and realize is that we are all born from a women, therefore feminity in inherent inside all of us. Most people goes to far to extreme and cut this side of them, therefore making them live a rather imbalance and delusional life. They are cut of their emotions and true self. I truly believe that even the biggest muscle of a guy can still have the emotions of his mother. Even the famous psychologist Freud believes that a boy needs to detach himself from his mother and roughen up (although he would not term it like that) and be with his father so that he can be a “better” man. And even the process of baptism, is the process of cleansing the newborn baby (which really means removing the feminity that was born through his mother) and be with the priest, his new father, who will now officially recognize him.